As I was doing the laundry and hanging clothes to dry, it seems that the fact only sinks in today. That he is now dead and won't be with us in the future. The only memory I had with him when we were still in elementary was I was the one he used to ask whenever he has an assignment. Although we are not that very close, I love him same as I love my other brothers and sister.
He was taken from us suddenly, for reasons we weren't able to find out. My parents didn't conduct an autopsy after he died, they said there's no reason to do such since he is already dead. He just complained a stomach ache one day and was brought to the local doctor which they said didn't bother to check him thoroughly and just gave an advice that my brother should be brought to the hospital. Since it is a province where most people trust quack doctors than the real ones, my mother brought him to someone she know. The quack said he was poisoned, a poison that could kill instantly ( I wonder if there's a poison that doesn't really kill). The quack said he should be brought to the hospital too. Unfortunately, the moment they stepped out of the quack doctor's house, my brother died and was declared DOA upon arriving at the hospital. My mother blamed herself for that, for she didn't brought my brother to the hospital immediately. If she only did it, my brother is probably still alive now. But I am sure God has a reason for everything. Of all the tragic deaths we could imagine, I am still thankful that my brother didn't experience more pain when he died. Based on his friends stories, my brother often says that his stomach is aching which he doesn't tell my mother. He probably doesn't want our parents to worry about him and just keep everything himself. He often drinks alcohol with his friends too, probably because of his problems with his wife and their only child. Heart problems is hereditary so even we are not doctors, we assumed that he probably have problems with his internal organs due to alcohol ( as his tools shows like a mud) and experienced cardiac arrest on their way to the hospital.
His problem with his wife and son is a different matter. As much as we want to let the kid know of his father's situation, we weren't able to do so. The mother won't even speak to us even if we beg. They left my brother after Typhoon Yolanda struck our province that is about almost 3 years as of this writing. She said they were taking a vacation and since my brother trust her he let them go to Dumaguete. Unfortunately, they didn't came back. As far as I know, my brother visited but was threatened not to come again or else the relatives of the girl will give my brother a beating. One reason why my mother didn't let him go there alone as she was afraid of what might happen. His wife probably really hates her life with my brother or really hates my family and we don't know why. As I was asking my parents, sister in law and nieces in the province if they are really married, they said they are. The girl requested them to be wed in the church and I even joked that why didn't they invited me upon hearing it. The wife's statement is different though when it comes to her relatives in Dumaguete. My parents know as they were able to communicate with the wife's sister in Dumaguete. She says that they aren't married and was physically abused by my brother which is very different to what my relatives says. My mother says they do quarrel a lot but not to that extreme and after the quarrel my brother is still the one who prepares and cooks their food. Although my brother has a temper, it is very seldom that he could raise his hand and hit someone. Everyone knows he is kind, probably one reason he was taken by God suddenly.
My nephew's name is Gerald Cabalida Bonilla. He is now 8 years old as far as I know and on the second grade this school year. They are now living in Valencia, Dumaguete City. I am not sure of the exact address, I only got some of the info from his mother Lecel Cabalida's Facebook account, which she blocked me upon accepting my friend request.
Anyway I am writing this in case my memory fails in the next couple of years and won't be able to remember most of the details. I haven't seen Giboy yet but hopefully if just in case he is old enough to wonder why he have a different surname than his sibling and are able to trace his roots from Google, he will be able to see this post. Yes, he has a sibling now. My brother knows Lecel, his wife is pregnant with another man's child through a psychic. I were able to confirm this information recently as Lecel sister said they talked to Lecel to let the kid see his father but won't be able to because she has a baby and can't travel. I even said if we could fetch the child but I wasn't able to get a proper answer because she blocked me on Facebook.
We just hope that the kid is okay with his mother and we are still hoping that we will be able to see him even if he had grown up already. His cousins misses him so much.
His problem with his wife and son is a different matter. As much as we want to let the kid know of his father's situation, we weren't able to do so. The mother won't even speak to us even if we beg. They left my brother after Typhoon Yolanda struck our province that is about almost 3 years as of this writing. She said they were taking a vacation and since my brother trust her he let them go to Dumaguete. Unfortunately, they didn't came back. As far as I know, my brother visited but was threatened not to come again or else the relatives of the girl will give my brother a beating. One reason why my mother didn't let him go there alone as she was afraid of what might happen. His wife probably really hates her life with my brother or really hates my family and we don't know why. As I was asking my parents, sister in law and nieces in the province if they are really married, they said they are. The girl requested them to be wed in the church and I even joked that why didn't they invited me upon hearing it. The wife's statement is different though when it comes to her relatives in Dumaguete. My parents know as they were able to communicate with the wife's sister in Dumaguete. She says that they aren't married and was physically abused by my brother which is very different to what my relatives says. My mother says they do quarrel a lot but not to that extreme and after the quarrel my brother is still the one who prepares and cooks their food. Although my brother has a temper, it is very seldom that he could raise his hand and hit someone. Everyone knows he is kind, probably one reason he was taken by God suddenly.
My nephew's name is Gerald Cabalida Bonilla. He is now 8 years old as far as I know and on the second grade this school year. They are now living in Valencia, Dumaguete City. I am not sure of the exact address, I only got some of the info from his mother Lecel Cabalida's Facebook account, which she blocked me upon accepting my friend request.
Anyway I am writing this in case my memory fails in the next couple of years and won't be able to remember most of the details. I haven't seen Giboy yet but hopefully if just in case he is old enough to wonder why he have a different surname than his sibling and are able to trace his roots from Google, he will be able to see this post. Yes, he has a sibling now. My brother knows Lecel, his wife is pregnant with another man's child through a psychic. I were able to confirm this information recently as Lecel sister said they talked to Lecel to let the kid see his father but won't be able to because she has a baby and can't travel. I even said if we could fetch the child but I wasn't able to get a proper answer because she blocked me on Facebook.
We just hope that the kid is okay with his mother and we are still hoping that we will be able to see him even if he had grown up already. His cousins misses him so much.
